Am I flirting?

If you urgently need to know whether something is flirting, you're welcome to decamp to http://amiflirting.com/submit or send correspondence to amiflirting (at) tumblr.com. Will we assume you're flirting with us? Only if you want us to.

3. If I Say Goodnight to Him on IM?

What is he now, your own little stuffed tiger to hold at bedtime? It’s definitely cute — and pleasantly noncommittal, hundreds of miles away from one another as you may be. But why are you small-talking at all? Flirting is a time to be sharp. Unless your idea of flirting with a daily “good night” is to pre-emptively stray into comfy relationshippy patter. And you haven’t even got there yet, ugga mugga.